Finger-feeding a baby who can't breastfeed

Sometimes a baby is born with some sort of difficulty which makes it hard for him to nurse properly and or obtain a good latch. Sam was like that. Due to his tongue tie he wasn't able to latch onto my nipples or even suck that well. Only the second day did he attempt a little sucking and by the third day he was able to actually nurse for an entire feeding. So what happened during this time? The hospital staff fed him bottles. I had no choice, really. They did not tell me anything about hand-expressing colostrum (idiots) and they just found it easier to feed him formula, so that was what happened. My sister did give me great advice about that, though. She said to have the nurses use a breastfeeding-friendly method when administering the bottles.

If you read what the internet has to say about that, you'll see all kinds of suggestions from using an SNS (supplemental nursing system), to cup-feeding, spoon-feeding, dropper-feeding, and finger-feeding. The SNS is a really helpful tool (based on what I've read online and heard from mothers who have used them) but I don't have much info since I've never tried it out. Cup-feeding and spoon-feeding sound very messy to me. I know that Sam couldn't easily drink from a cup until he was several months old so no way could I see that working when he was a few days old! Droppers don't sound bad, and I've resorted to using that at times when he was reluctant to eat (I have plastic pipettes).

Which leaves finger-feeding. How does this work? You (or whoever is feeding the baby) wash your hands (important!) and fills a bottle with milk or formula. Then you attach a lactation aid which is really a thin tube that can attach to the baby bottle. Tape the other end of the tube to your finger and let your baby suck your finger as if it's a nipple or pacifier. Release the milk into the tube and your baby is now being fed!

This was a great method to use in our case because Sam was able to build up his sucking muscles while eating, but without the nipple confusion a regular bottle would have caused. I wanted him to learn to suck on skin, not silicone. I actually never did this because the nurses in the hospital were doing it for me, but the technique did work to help Sam suck better, and it got him fed without a bottle!

So if you're in such a situation where your baby can't nurse for whatever reason, don't give up hope. You probably can sort out your breastfeeding issue, whether it's a physical issue like tongue tie, or a milk supply issue. But in the meantime, there is no reason your baby has to be given a bottle. Bottles don't help as well as other breastfeeding-friendly methods do. Plus you can give your baby your own milk most of the time!